Comments on: Fed Up (And Chemo Hasn’t Even Started Yet)!

By: Joede

Joede — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 18:28:47 +0000

Cathy, thank you so much. It has taken over my life but I have to remind people it’s not my life. I mean, cancer is not Joede. Joede has a family, a job, a business, wants to fall in love, like sledding and has cancer. I’m not as scared anymore. I’m more worried about the superficial things like my hair! LOL I found a book titled “How Am I Gonna Find A Man If I’m Dead?” and that’s my mindset right now! ROFL!!!

By: Joede

Joede — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 18:24:36 +0000

Preita, even though it’s wrong morally and legally to fire me, we all know it happens. My last job fired me when I told them I was pregnant with my daughter. They wanted me to go quietly so the basically paid me off. At the time, I had myself, my son and an unborn child to take care of. Many people say I should have taken them to court. However, I was able to stay home for 2 years! If I had filed a lawsuit, we’d probably still be in litigation.

As I told you, but may not have mentioned to others, the controller eased up. I think maybe he did his own research or someone politely told him what I am going through. Either way, the stress has reduced dramatically for me!

By: Preita

Preita — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 21:15:19 +0000

I am following you on twitter (Preita) and I hope you don’t mind me commenting.

I hope that things start getting better for you soon, though you seem seriously strong & optimistic about everything (even the crapola).

They deffinately can’t fire you because of going to chemo & getting treatment for cancer. That would be opening them up to a huge lawsuit & state penalties for discrimination.

Maybe you should randomly drop a pamphlet on your controllers desk about chemo. Maybe then he will get it.

By: Cathy

Cathy — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 17:59:03 +0000

I feel your pain and I wish I had magic words to take it all away. But, you and I both know that words can’t do it. In 1995 I also fought cancer and then came a second cancer diagnosis (CLL) 2 yrs ago. so I do understand a little of what you are going through. When people say they know you are “strong” it is because they geniunely are trying to give comfort but they just don’t really know what to say, so those words seems to be the what they think is what you want to hear. I have been so scared at times that I thought I couldn’t even get a breath in.

I think what you are feeling and going through is totally normal for this stage of the process. You have been scared to death and anyone that’s ever had a cancer diagnosis knows how intense that fear is. It take sover and controls us. You will eventually get to the point where it all becomes much easier to deal with. I will be happy to talk to you any time you need to talk or even just listen when you need someone to do that.

I am thinking of you and yes I am the same cathy that is Cathy627 on twitter. I also wanted to punch someone in the face.